How therapy is helping me to practice self-compassion
I’ve always been a hard-on-myself kind of person. I’m my own worst critic, and I’m always striving to be better, do better, and be more. This can be a good thing or a very a bad thing. On the one hand, it motivates me to achieve my goals. On the other, it can lead to feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt, and perfectionism.
I started therapy a few years ago and went through it for about a year. Then again, when I found a new therapist two months ago. It’s been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. My therapist is helping me to find the root of my self-critical tendencies, and she’s teaching me how to practice self-compassion.
Self-compassion is the ability to be kind and understanding towards ourselves, even and especially when we make mistakes. It’s about accepting ourselves for who we are. It’s about offering ourselves the same grace and understanding that we would offer a friend.
This has honestly been a game-changer for me. It’s helping me get a handle on my anxiety and depression, and it’s gradually helping me to improve my self-esteem. I’m working on being more patient with myself and not to beat myself up when I make mistakes.
If you struggle with self-criticism, I encourage you to consider therapy. It can be a powerful tool for healing and transformation.
Here are some of the things I’m learning about self-compassion in therapy:
- Being self-compassionate does not equate to being selfish or self-indulgent; it simply means giving ourselves the same kindness and understanding we would show a friend.
- Self-compassion isn’t about turning a blind eye to our pain or trying to bury our suffering. It’s about accepting it, embracing it, and providing ourselves with the solace and comfort we need.
- Self-compassion is not about being perfect. It’s about accepting ourselves for who we are, flaws and all.
Here are some tips for practicing self-compassion. I know that I struggle with these and it’s easier said than done, but making the attempt is what counts:
- Be kind to yourself. Talk to yourself the way you would talk to a friend.
- Forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. Don’t dwell on them. Learn from them and move on.
- Be patient with yourself. Change takes time. Don’t expect to be perfect overnight.
- Be grateful for yourself. Appreciate your strengths and accomplishments.
- Take care of yourself. Eat healthy foods, get enough sleep, and exercise regularly.
Practicing self-compassion is a journey, not a destination. It takes time and effort, but it’s worth it. When we show ourselves mercy, we are better able to cope with stress, anxiety, and depression. We are also more likely to be happy and fulfilled in our lives.
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